Now What?

So I am all done with this part of my research and my next step will be taking all that data and organizing it and ranking everything.  I'll rank both the importance of each factor to me (example: Number of friends = high, weather = medium, number of sports teams = low) and how each city ranks within that category.

I expect in the end that the results of my rankings will more or less conform with my feelings on each city.  I think I've already noted (maybe not in the blog, but to people who've asked about it) that I can just feel a few places rising to the top and some dropping to the bottom.  Much of that has/had to do with my feelings about each place when I visited.  But some good impressions have been reinforced by some of my research.

What I'm curious to see if which city, if any, surprises me and winds up ranking really high on all of these objective factors, when my feelings and memories about the city didn't have it ranked quite so high on my list.

I expect this project will take a few days (during which I'll also be spending a lot of my time at the Film Festival) so don't be surprised if I go AKB (away from blog) for a little while.

Asheville Revisited

This is the last recap, praise the lord. These took much longer than I expected! And I've run out of steam, so this one will be pretty short, too.

Asheville is very pretty, being nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains. I don't feel the need to go on about how pretty the mountains are, they just … are. And that has the added benefit of making the city terrain hilly, so I'll get my exercise when I walk about town.

The architecture in Asheville varies. Downtown still has some old buildings that are attractive, and some big old southern homes. But it's not all beautiful. Asheville's half-a-skycraper is about as boring as you can get. And outside of the old southern homes, there's not a lot of cohesion to the housing. Some are good-looking and modern condos, some are 1950 ranches, some are … you get the picture. The man-made objects in Asheville are not, on the whole, ugly. But I don't remember Asheville for its man-made beauty either.

The people are very nice. Like central North Carolina, people seem courteous and willing to talk for a while with strangers. I'm a little worried about the greater Asheville area being labelled a “evangelical epicenter” – I just kind of think I won't fit in there. But my own observations and Paul and Heather's statements make me think Asheville itself would be a pretty good fit for me, with people being rather liberal and open-minded and accepting of differences.

A non-too-ugly church in Asheville.

I don't have many friends there, but I have at least three, which is more than I would hope for in a fairly small and out-of-the-way city like Asheville. I also spent some time with my friends' friends, and wouldn't mind seeing more of them if I lived there, so I'm confident that between the people being nice and having pals to introduce me to people, I'll find a social circle that fits me well.

Things I think I'd like about Asheville:

• It's real funky. Lots of artist studios, independent restaurants and businesses (i.e., not chains!), community activities like drum circles, theaters, etc.
• As the smallest city on my list, I'd like the pace and the ease of things. Now, because it's in the mountains, Asheville is kind of sprawling (it can't spread out evenly in a circle). But the up side of that is most of the drives are easy, if a little on the long side. Prices are reasonable, waits are short, that sort of thing.
• The physical environment, from the mountains to the weather. Asheville gets all four seasons, with mild winters and not-too-hot summers, plus a mix of sunny and rainy days. And I've never lived in the mountains but think it would be a real treat.

Two not-too-ugly buildings downtown.

Things I think I'd dislike about Asheville:

• Similar to Raleigh, I'm a little nervous about some of the ugly attitudes that can be found in the South. And western North Carolina (outside of a few larger towns) is not exactly a bastion of enlightenment. It's where, for example, people like Eric Rudolph go to hunker down after bombing abortion clinics and the Olympics. (Not to say that crazy people can't be found everywhere, but I don't think it's a coincidence that a religious whack job would feel at home out there.)
• It's not super accessible from other places I might want to be. It's kind of a long drive to Cleveland, but a shorter one to DC. Because it's small, there are fewer flights in and out of town than I'm accustomed to, and my searches usually can't find direct flights to either DC or Cleveland.
• Could I find a job there? Almost definitely not in my niche field of the law. Maybe in another field of law? Would I run into the problem of not being from the area? I don't know if Asheville is provincial when it comes to hiring in “conservative” fields like the law. Maybe I'll call my pal Kenny, see what he thinks. He's originally from Virginia, so he'd have an outsider's perspective.

Des Moines Revisited

The people in Des Moines were quite pleasant. They'd say hello on the sidewalk, and everyone I tried to chat up about the city took the time to talk about their home. The people (surprise!) very Midwestern. Down-to-earth, but not stodgy, not too serious, but not all spacy either. The pace of everything seemed a little slower than, say, Cleveland and definitely slower than Chicago, but the pace didn't drag.

At the blues concert.

I don't doubt that neighbors in Des Moines would be neighborly and that I'd be able to casually meet people. I'm a little worried about whether there are a lot of people in my peer group (which I consider 30s and 40s) who are unmarried and have no children. Not that those are the only people with whom I make friends, but it's easier to plan things when your friends don't have family obligations. Now, my demographics research did not turn up information that Des Moines is notably more family-heavy than most other cities on my list. But a number of the locals I talked to, without being asked, said they thought I'd be a little unusual, being still single and 37.

Having only one friend in Des Moines, and a Warcraft friend at that (i.e., not a “real life” friend) I am a little worried I'll be lonely, at least at first. But I remind myself that I've made friends everywhere else I've lived – even unfriendly Washington – so I won't worry too much about Des Moines. And nothing I've heard from people who know the place leads me to believe it's one of those towns that on the surface is nice to newcomers, but never really lets them into the true social circles of the city.

Des Moines is kind of a plain city. It's not ugly, but nothing about it really stands out as being really attractive either. Some of the neighborhoods are nice, and there is a large sculpture garden downtown. And of course some individual buildings are attractive, as are some homes, but the architecture leans towards the generic rather than the interesting. The town is not dense at all, which means there is green space everywhere, and that helps make it look pleasant. But it's all the same kind of green space: Grass and trees. Des Moines is totally flat, so there's not even change in terrain to distract the eye.

Offspring of The Thinker and that rabbit from Donnie Darko.

Now, one thing I really liked about Des Moines is how quickly one can escape the city and its suburbs and be out in the country. So if I want a change of pace, escaping the city will be really easy. Having said that, the only place to escape to is … flat land with cornfields as far as the eye can see. Different from the city itself, but not particularly beautiful.

You've got to admit though... This is really charming!

Things I think I'd like about Des Moines:

• Des Moines felt really comfortable, and even easier than, say, Cleveland. Everything is an easy 15 minute drive away, nothing is hard to access, parking is plentiful. There is enough infrastructure to support the people (groceries, restaurants, tables at the library) so there's not a lot of standing in lines or waiting for seats. Traffic is light. As someone who can be really bothered by all sorts of common irritants like traffic, waiting, and other people, having and easy life would please me.
• I like Iowa generally. The small towns, the farms. And I actually like open and flat (although admittedly it could get dull after a while). I like that Iowa matters in presidential elections. And I think participating in a caucus would be really interesting.
• This is a town where I think I could easily achieve my (minor) dream of owning a house! The homes are reasonably priced, especially compared to incomes. And there were enough nice neighborhoods of older homes, I know I could find a place I like.

The Art Museum.  A non-rink-a-dink art museum, at that.

Things I think I'd dislike about Des Moines:

• I'm worried I'll get bored. Or maybe not bored, but run out of new experiences to try. Des Moines is pretty small, and less ethnically diverse than most bigger cities, so there might be fewer festivals and restaurants, etc.
• It's a combination of fairly far away from the people I love, and it's not exactly a tourist destination. So I'm looking at doing a lot of travel to see my friends and family.
• People will make fun of me for moving there. Hell, people made fun of me for visiting there! LOL. (I can withstand such teasing; I needed something to list as a thing I wouldn't like about Des Moines, hehe.)

Cleveland Revisited (And um... still visiting...)

I've been continually revisiting Cleveland for the past three months now, as I've let myself fall behind my research schedule. /sighs at self/

Anyway... Cleveland is my hometown, and fortunately, I grew up in a town that doesn't drive people away in droves. Well, yeah, they tend to leave in droves because the jobs are heading out of town. But people don't leave because it's a crappy place to live. And in large measure, it's a nice place to live because the people here are pretty friendly and down-to-earth.

Example: Mom and I went to the Cleveland International Film Festival yesterday. The walk from the parking garage to the movie theaters is pretty convoluted, especially when you need to add elevators to the route, as we did. I swear, at least 8 people along the way asked if we needed help finding our way. Some of them even stopped other people to ask for help, so it felt like we were escorted the whole way by guides pointing out our path. Another example: I tend to smile and nod as I pass strangers on the street, but around here, most people beat me to it, usually with a “hello” as well. I have noticed one downside, which is that not everyone seems very aware of current events, even really big things that dominate the news for a whole week. Not everyone is out of touch, but it seems to be more than in, say, Washington, D.C. This latter observation isn't a big deal, but I notice it.

I also have many friends in the area, and of course, my mom and dad live in Cleveland. So I wouldn't have to worry about building a social network, although I expect I'll be able to make more friends fairly easily anyway.

Despite the photos in this blog post, which I took on my walk today, I will have to rank Cleveland somewhere in the middle when it comes to looking good. Mostly, I think Cleveland suffers from interesting architecture in either its homes or in most of its skyline. Now, there are a large number of individual buildings that are quite attractive (the Rock n Roll Hall of Fame, the art museum, a whole bunch of Eastern Orthodox and Catholic Churches), but the city sort of lacks cohesion. Ditto with the homes: There are a lot of old homes with character (which I like), but they seem to be outnumbered by 1950s development type homes and 1980s pre-mini-mansion type homes. The town doesn't look awful, but it could look a little better.

The landscape is decent, though. Cleveland is right on the lake (I could see it if I walked down to the corner and stood on a chair). There's plenty of green, mostly because Cleveland lacks a large swath of dense urban landscape. And the Metroparks, a sprawling green ring that circles the county for like 60 miles (and which you've seen in at least one of my noon photos) is accessible from all over, providing bike paths, fitness courses, nature walks, a river, golf courses and horseback riding. So nature is very close. The whole west side of Cleveland is pretty flat, as it is the very start of the Great Plains. The east side is gentle hills, being the very edge of the Allegheny Mountains.

Things I think I'd like about Cleveland:

• It's a really easy town to live in. As a friend once describe, if you decide you want to go to a movie, you can be out of the house and in your seat in 20 minutes. Because driving is easy, parking is easy, there won't be a line at the theater, you don't have to travel forever to get to the place, etc. And this example can be repeated all over town. If I want a massage or a dentist checkup, there's usually a space available the next day; no waiting a week or a month for an appointment. In other than the absolute best or trendiest restaurants, there is never a wait. (Exception: Out in the suburbs where there aren't enough places to eat and everyone clamors for the culinary delights of places like Chili's.) And the cost of living is reasonable, which adds to its feel of an “easy” place to live.
• Lots of friends here, and my parents. Friends for fun and laughter, parents for company and for that kind of help that I'm usually only comfortable asking from family. Plus, one of these years my parents will be old (not yet, mom and dad!), and it would be nice for them to have a daughter nearby to keep an eye on them or help with the heavy lifting.
• For most of the year, the weather. I like all four seasons, which it has. I like snow, which it has. I like cloudy, which it is. Long and cold winters will start to wear on me, but I think I can accept that trade-off for three other nice seasons.

Things I think I'd dislike about Cleveland:

• From what I can tell, Cleveland's economy is not completely in the dump. Not like, say, Detroit. Hell, it doesn't even have the worst unemployment of the 11 cities on my list! But Cleveland's economy usually takes a dive before the country overall, and can be slower to bounce back. And so much of the industrial base that was here between WWII and the 1990s is gone or diminished. Some of that has been replaced with new industries, like healthcare. But I think it's bad for the city that there is a no robust and stationary industry that actually makes things.
• Speaking of economy... Not sure what kind of job I can get around here. I knew from the start that in most places I went, I wouldn't be able to work in the field of commodities regulation, and that's OK. But can I get something in legal field at all? I am open to new fields, but I'd prefer to choose something new, not be forced into something new due to lack of jobs.
• Winter has the potential to really suck.

Five months of this could really suck.

Raleigh Revisited

As you probably know by now, I lived in Raleigh for a year and a half, and lived in nearby Durham for 3 years, so I am pretty familiar with the area, although some on my knowledge is out of date. I liked my time in both cities, especially Raleigh. I won't go into all of the reasons I liked the area now though, and will limit this post to the people and the pretty.

Raleigh, Sir Walter.

First, the people in the area are super nice. I met several people in totally random ways while I lived there, like walking down the street or at the library. Men and women both. I knew everyone in my 12-unit building in Raleigh, and most in my 10-unit in Durham. When I was in Raleigh a few months ago, I talked to a man who I met at my old apartment building. He emailed me a few weeks later to see how my search was coming along, and offered to suggest places to live if I moved back to the area. Another man I met while leaving the Cafe wound up sitting and listening to my tales of travel and jobs for about 45 minutes. Total stranger, but genuinely interested in what I was up to.

When I returned to the Court of Appeals, my old pal John was delighted to see me, even though I got his attention by staring in his winder like a crazed stalker (hmm, maybe because I stared at him like a crazed stalker?). And Judge Wynn was of course as gracious and welcoming as always. My friend Deena is the most outgoing person I know, and has the biggest heart. While I only have a few real friends left in the area, I am certain I will make more.

My old home near downtown.

Raleigh is somewhere in the middle, well, maybe closer to the bottom, in terms of prettiness. There are very charming old neighborhoods. Much of downtown is pretty, with lots of green space. And the terrain isn't boring – the whole area is kind of gently rolling hills. But I think Raleigh (and the whole area) is suffering from growing so quickly. The new buildings going up downtown are too big for the space, and aren't anything special. Raleigh made its nice pedestrian mall into a road. What cities are turning pedestrian spaces into roads these days? /puzzled and disbelieving look/ And believe me, downtown Raleigh's traffic is not so heavy it needs another road.

The increased population has also resulted in tons of boring mass-produced homes springing up all over town, most of which aren't anything special. While leaving Raleigh, I saw some of the sprawl that's sprung up in the past decade. It used to be, once I passed the car lots heading north on Route 1, I wouldn't hit another traffic light for miles and miles. This past visit, I hit at least 10 traffic lights that didn't used to be there. Aside from being a sign of too many people moving to the area, it's resulted in a lot of hastily-erected buildings and the erosion of the area's natural beauty.

Now, Raleigh is not ugly the way that Charleston is ugly. And it's in a part of the country with plenty of rain, so the trees and grass and flowers are in good shape. But I wouldn't say Raleigh is among the best-looking of the cities I've seen.

Things I think I'd like about Raleigh:

• The people are super-nice (see above). Even with the large influx of non-North Carolinians in recent years, the people are still friendly to strangers and not in a big hurry or full of self-importance. At the same time, Raleigh is not full of uneducated yokels or some of the more unsavory stereotypes one can find in the south (i.e., racists).
• Despite its really fast growth rate, Raleigh still seems to be an “easy” place to live. Traffic isn't that bad (in most places). Restaurants aren't jam-packed. Things aren't too expensive. People and employers value a good work-home balance.
• Sweet tea! /closes eyes, daydreams about sweet tea/

The Legislative Building, surrounded by green space.

Things I think I'd dislike about Raleigh:

• I'm scared that Raleigh won't be the Raleigh I remember. While it's only been 11 years since I left, I saw a lot of changes, and I know the population has grown by about 40%. I liked that it was a somewhat sleepy smallish city. I doubt it's that sleepy any more, and I know it's not smallish. How many of the places I enjoyed back in 2000 are now gone or replaced? (This last bit is less of a fear: When I visited in 2011, a whole lot of my hangouts were still there!)
• Every once in a while, I'd encounter someone (usually male, usually pretty old, usually from some rural part of NC) who'd start talking to me, then casually mention how “Ni**ers were ruining the state for the rest of us” or something. The first time that happened, I was shocked into silence – Who still talks that way?! Especially to a stranger?! It only happened a couple of times, but it was a reminder that I was living in the South, and that sometimes meant I'd encounter brazen racists.
• Nothing else really, except that lingering suspicion that (to quote Asheville, NC native Thomas Wolfe) “you can't go home again” and that the reality of moving back to Raleigh won't live up to my high expectations.

Portland Revisited

Portland is in the upper half of my 11 cities in terms of beauty for two reasons: It is very green and builders are required to make buildings attractive and donate money to purchase public art. Thanks to all the rain in Portland, there are lots of trees and lots of grass, and everything is very colorful. Portland also dubs itself “Rose City” or “City of Roses” because of how many rose gardens it has. Indeed, there are parks all over town. Not just rose parks, but other green space too.

Downtown

When it comes to man-made beauty, Portland is also pretty high on the list. For example, there are parking garages in downtown Portland. But unlike in, say, Charleston, where why are on every corner and are ugly, the parking garages in Portland are disguised to look like normal buildings. And there is an emphasis on putting office space on top of the buildings, with helps to fill in the space in the city center, instead of sprawling outwards.

A pretty lady & some public art.  Locals laugh at this statue because no one in Portland uses an umbrella or wears a suit.

On my walking tour of Portland, I learned that companies that build downtown are required to apply 1% of the costs of building to funding public art. So everywhere you go, there are statues and sculptures and murals. I wouldn't say the architecture is the most beautiful (that's Chicago) but both downtown and residential buildings are certainly pleasant to look at. Plus, as a fan of (good looking) industrial architecture, I am delighted by Portland's many bridges.

Lots of public porn, too!

Portland is about 1.5 hours from the ocean, and a 2 hour drive away from Mount Hood. The high desert is just on the other side of the Cascade Mountains, and one of the most beautiful drives of my whole trip is along the Columbia River, just outside of Portland. The terrain of the city includes a nice mix of flat areas and hilly areas, so the exercise will be good without totally wearing me down every day.

The people in Portland seemed kind of reserved, but not unkind or snooty. People were willing to talk to me about their home, and everyone said they liked it. But few were as enthusiastic about living in Portland as the people in Denver were about Denver. That's OK, I'm not much a cheerleader even for things I like a lot. Portland's best ambassador for me is my friend Kristian, who I met at American U, but sadly, transferred to the West Coast after our sophomore year. /Shakes fist at Kristian!/ I trust Kristian's opinions both because I know him and because I think my outlook on life is similar to his. So if he perceived Portland one way, I suspect I will too. He has this to say:

“My experience in Portland is that people are incredibly open and friendly. There are certainly stuck-up self-important snobs, but they tend to be stuck up about whatever weird subculture they're really into (bikes, tattooing, ice climbing) and not about, say, their job with the State Department.  It's irritating, but mostly ignorable.  And it's a small price to pay for living in a place where there are a thousand thriving subcultures and people really are passionate about their weird hobbies.” And:

“People are (as the sociologists put it) "civically engaged" – they join clubs, organize things, know their neighbors, participate in the adult soapbox derby, etc. … The people are mostly very friendly, but not interfering.”

Other than Kristian, however, I don't know anyone in Portland. That could make it a little harder to make friends and to learn about the city. :(

This is someone's front yard, and part of a shrine that sprang up to honor a bike rider killed by a car.

Things I think I'd like about Portland:

• How civically engaged the people are, coupled with the fact that they are civically engaged in a way I think are good ways of living (support public transportation, labor rights, the environment, public beauty, etc.). And of course, the benefits that flow from people being interested in their community, like good libraries, good schools, good city planning, etc.
• The weather throughout most of the year. As you know, I like it cloudy and chilly but not downright cold. I can deal with rain, especially when it's the kind of misty-rain that Portland usually gets. (Big exception to this below.)
• The city is really funky and off-beat, which I think will suit me. From old fashioned arcades to the March Fourth Marching Band, I expect I'll always be able to find something unusual to see or do. And I'd feel special being the most straight-laced person in town.

Things I think I'd dislike about Portland:

• Hmm... How far it is from Cleveland and DC. It's nearly as far as LA, and apparently more expensive to fly to. I do have some extended family in southern Washington State who I could see sometimes, but I've never been so far from my parents or sister on a permanent basis.
• The average temperature in winter is just over freezing. And Portland gets most of its rainfall during the winter. Which means almost-freezing rain for three months. Cold and wet. Ugh!
• What if I have a hard time making friends? Only knowing one person in town will leave me feeling lonely.

Denver Revisited

Of all the cities I visited, two stood out as having people who were super enthusiastic about how great their city was: Denver and Austin. Austin, as you know, is no longer on my list, but Denver is and one of its biggest selling points is definitely the people there. Whenever I talked to a local, and let them know I was thinking of living there, they all replied that of course I had to move there, and then gave me several reasons why I should. (I'll take this opportunity to compare the people in Denver to those in Portland, who also said I should move there, but then -- aside from my pal Kristian -- struggled to come up with reasons why.) People were also really nice even when they didn't know why I was in town, and I had several offers of help, like when I looked lost and when I was locked out of my car.

Boulder, about 45 minutes north of Denver.

So two big thumbs up for all the strangers in Denver who talked to me about their town. When it comes to people I already know, I have fewer friends in Denver than I might like. Only one, as far as I know, but based on my reception when I visited Denver this fall, I expect making friends would be pretty easy.

The woman who owns this house asked me to tell all my friends in Ohio that if they are looking for Jesus, he is HERE.  I don't know if she meant Denver, or her house specifically.

I didn't find Denver to be as beautiful as I expected. While the Rocky Mountains are right nearby, and are impressive, I guess I am not as impressed by mountains as by other features. For example, Denver itself is on the edge of the great plains. It is flat. I don't remember walking up anything but the most gentle of hills anywhere in town. Nor do I remember an abundance of trees or greenery, although Denver certainly isn't a desert or anything.

Various neighborhoods have nice buildings. Nothing extraordinary, maybe, but nice enough. Overall, the architecture of the town doesn't impress me the way, say, LA or Chicago or DC does. This isn't a fatal flaw, but it warrants mention in a post about a town's “beauty.”

OK, the views aren't bad!

Things I think I'd like about Denver:

• Fitness is very much part of the culture. While I'm not the biggest gym rat in the world, I like to stay fit and it will be easier if I'm surrounded by friends who like to stay in shape and be active. And while I'm also not the biggest skier either, it will be a treat to be so close to the good snow of the Rocky Mountains to go ski on.
• I liked how enthusiastic everyone was about the town, and for a lot of reasons too. It seemed like people cared about their community, both the whole town and their neighborhoods.
• My memory of some of the neighborhoods in Denver is very clear. Not all of them were my style, but the ones that were my style were really my style. Lots of charming homes and small apartments, walkable to nearby shops and restaurants. Sadly, all the charming neighborhoods are interrupted by the thing I liked least about the town…

A Denver neighborhood.

Things I think I'd dislike about Denver:

• The city has the feel of a place that has grown much too quickly. All the neighborhoods, which are pretty quiet and easy to navigate and walkable, are divided by really ugly and very crowded roads full of strip malls, office buildings, and motels. It appeared that nearly every route into downtown had to either navigate such lanes or cross over them. So while living in a little bubble looks pretty nice, if I worked downtown and had to face the really bad traffic every day, I would be sad.
• Denver is the second-sunniest city on my list, and combined with the locals' emphasis on being outside a lot, the “good” weather might start to wear on me. I like being outside, but I need a reason to be there (like, walking to a friend's house or cleaning up the yard). And when I am outside, I like the sun to be somewhere else.
• This might sound weird, but Denver felt like it was in the middle of nowhere. And... it is. Directly to the west are the Rocky Mountains, and as far north and east and south as the eye can see (and then some, by about a thousand miles) are the Great Plains. Look at Denver on a map of the United States sometime, then look for the next closest city. Outside of Colorado Springs, you have to go a long way before you find another big town. And without a notable waterway of some sort (a Great Lake, the Mississippi River, etc.), Denver both looks and feels like it is remote. Other cities on my list (Portland, LA) are farther from my family in Cleveland and DC by miles. But Denver sure felt like the most remote city I auditioned.

Washington Revisited

Washington stands out mostly positively in two categories: How pretty it is, and how many friends and loved ones I have in the area.

DC is full of pretty buildings, and due to building height restrictions, there are no skyscrapers, which makes for a brighter landscape and better views. There is also a large amount of parkland, ranging from the Mall, to the Rock Creek park for hiking and biking, to little parks scattered all over the city. The national monuments add to the beauty and provide a place to go when you want some exercise or a romantic stroll.

Having said that, the last several years have seen the beauty of the city decline. After September 11, 2001, barriers went up all over the city, including around some of the most iconic Washington buildings that traditionally were quite accessible. For example, the Capitol's steps, which I have walked on many times, are now closed, blocked by ugly metal fences. This is both an eyesore and an ugly way to treat people. (Congress works for us and we should be able to walk on their steps if we want to.) Elsewhere, giant concrete sewer pipes block roads, and Jersey barriers are everywhere, again creating ugly views and decreasing accessibility for both vehicles and pedestrians, further increasing DC's traffic problems, which in turn create crabby people and pollution.

As for the terrain, DC is not bad. It's mildly hilly; not enough that I'd be out of breath just walking to work, but hilly enough to provide some exercise and visual interest. DC is 3 hours from the ocean, but the Chesapeake Bay is closer, if one wants the water. No mountains nearby, but a few hours' drive can get you to some small ski slopes or some hiking in the Shenandoah.

So while DC has a very nice base of attractiveness, it has lately been diminished both in aesthetics and in inconvenience and shabby treatment of DC's residents.

As mentioned above, I have lots of friends in the area. Many from work, some from college, even some from elementary school! My sister and her husband live there too. I would never be without friends if I returned to DC. But despite knowing I have this core group of friends in DC, I find the "mob" in DC less that friendly. For example, I lived in the same large apartment building for 10 years. And when I moved out, I could name only 3 of my neighbors by name. Everywhere else I've lived I've known the names of a significant number of neighbors. And sometimes their pets' names, too! Since I've known neighbors in other places, but not in DC, I fault DC and not myself.

This woman loves Washington!

I am also turned off by this weird snobbishness I perceive in DC. Keep in mind that everyone works for the same company, really. They either work directly for the government, or work in an industry that serves the government. I exaggerate here, but the government is the largest employer in the region. So nearly everyone is a bureaucrat, yet a large number of people have this attitude that what they do is more important than what you do, and in turn that they more important than you. Just watch an ambulance try to navigate downtown traffic. About 20% of the drivers will make an effort to get out of the way; the rest just try to beat the next light, ambulance be damned.

Now, the masses in DC aren't all bad. Certainly, many individuals are great people (I felt fortunate that where I worked so many people were cool and nice). But even generally there are good qualities among the DC "mob": People are generally well-aware of current events, and I like that. There are very few, if any, backwards notions like women or minorities shouldn't be treated fairly. I fully expect to be treated fairly in hiring and promotion decisions in DC. The area is pretty liberal, as am I. I'm certainly not considered weird or bad because I don't go to church, for example. Or that I'm /gasp/ 37 and not married. I also like that when people approach each other on the sidewalk, most people slide to the right (as if they were cars). Surprisingly, people don't do this in most places, so there's a lot of weaving back and forth on the sidewalk, or those little pedestrian dances. This sounds like a silly reason to like the people of DC, but as someone who's really bothered by other people a lot of the time, it's nice knowing I won't be annoyed just walking down the sidewalk.

Things I like about DC:

• A lot of my friends live there. At this point in my life, I probably have more friends and family in DC than anywhere else, even Cleveland. Friends matter to my happiness.
• There's a lot to do and so much of it is free. Really, people in DC are spoiled by how much is free. Museums, military concerts, movies on the Mall, etc. I'll add there is a lot of nightlife too, including lots of dining options (although the price of dining out in DC seems higher than elsewhere).
• There are several places where I could make a mini-ciy within the city, making it a more comfortable place to live. And doing without a car, as well! That's what Dupont Circle was like, in fact. I lived and worked there and it was close to public transportation and fairly easy to reach by car, too. It made my part of the city seem manageable, even if the city itself is way too big. Which brings me to...

The now annual college bowl game in D.C.  One of many things to do!

Things I don't like about DC:

• It's too big. Getting anywhere outside of about a 1-mile radius from your home, or anywhere not on the Metro, is a huge pain in the butt. Things are either close in, but there are too many people and not enough parking. Or things are someplace less crowded, but are out in the suburbs and a real drag to get to (and depending on the suburb, there might still be too many people and not enough parking).
• As mentioned above, I never took to the people. Too many people give off a strong “me first” attitude. Someone suggested to me, when I commented that people in their neighborhood were pretty friendly, that maybe I just lived in the wrong place. That's possible. I also know that the further away I get from the “hip” (and maybe less friendly) parts of town, the worse my commute will be, as the less likely I'll find a mini-city within the city. So escaping the snobbery could reduce my quality of life.
• Taxation Without Representation! In case you are one of the many people who do not know this, DC has no Senators and no Congresspeople (not ones that are permitted to vote, at least). DC meets all of the requirements to be a state, yet repeated attempts to somehow get voting rights in Congress (whether by being a state or being assigned voting slots or even being subsumed into a neighboring state) have been for naught. DC residents, unlike residents of U.S. territories, pay federal income taxes. Yet because it is the home of Congress, and there is no one in Congress to stand up to it, Congress dicks around all the time with D.C.'s laws. This is an indignity that doesn't happen in any other place in the U.S. It's really shameful that such a large percentage of U.S. citizens are not represented in Congress.

Columbus Revisited

Like Chicago, I didn't make Columbus an official stop on my 2011 tour because I've been there so many times. I'd say at least a dozen times over the past 20 years. So I didn't give Columbus the same thorough inspection as some of the other cities, but I've seen a number of its neighborhoods, eaten at its restaurants, and experienced a few things with friends that I might not have found if I'd explored it “my way.” Sadly, for the same reason, I don't have many photos.

Some old industrial building in Columbus, now converted to an arts center.

Most of my visits (maybe all of my visits?) to Columbus have been to see friends, some of whom are no longer there. But one of my closest friends and his family live nearby and another friend from grade school is in one of the suburbs, so I'd have a few people to help introduce me to others. And in my experience, the people in Columbus are generally pretty down to earth and friendly. From what I can tell, a lot like they are in my hometown Cleveland, which makes sense since they are only about 120 miles apart. So I expect I'd meet friendly neighbors and people.

Now, while Columbus has a few old and charming neighborhoods, it is not what I consider to be a particularly pretty city. It's by no means a dump, it's just nothing special in either natural or man-made beauty. It's pretty flat, and is smack in the middle of Ohio. So it's not near a large body of water, just a river through town.

Things I think I'd like about Columbus:

• I'm a big college football fan, and Columbus is home to Ohio State, one of the teams I root for (although admittedly, Ohio State has let me down recently due to some off-field shenanigans). I think it would be a lot of fun being in a college town on game day, where all the bars show the game and all the neighbors are rooting for the team.
• Partly related to the presence of Ohio State and for other reasons, there will always be something to do. College and community events, sports, art galleries, classes, COSI, etc.
• A fairly easy travel distance to my loved ones, while still feeling like I am in my city. Now, I'm not one of those people who feels the need to get as far away from their family as possible. But I also like the little feeling of independence that comes with being in a place where I have to depend on myself. And yes, I recognize the irony of writing this from my parents' house, where I've been living for the past three months lol.

Things I think I'd dislike about Columbus:

• In kind of the same way I think I'd second-guess myself for moving from DC to Philly, I might wonder why I'd choose Columbus over Cleveland, which is my hometown and a city I know I like, am much more familiar with, and in which I have many more friends and loved ones. The two cities are quite similar in a lot of ways. Medium cities, both in Ohio, similar political leanings, similar climates.
• I don't think Columbus is very walkable. There are a few places where one could live and walk to shops and restaurants, but it's not the norm.

Philadelphia Revisited

There were a few things I liked about Philly when I visited it before my travels last summer. One of those things was the local color – as in: people. /Pauses, thinks about how that sounded./ As in: people with vibrant personalities. It made me LOL when drivers would lean out their windows and yell “stoopit!” at people blocking traffic. I liked how the men seemed to check me out just a little, and women would eye the men as well. Nothing creepy, just... a healthy interest in members of the opposite sex.

Easy to look at.

Another thing I liked was the physical surroundings. Downtown, especially, has some nice buildings and a decent amount of parks for sitting and people watching. The historical districts add to the beauty of the town as well. I could see myself living downtown and being pleased with what I saw as I walked to work every day.

The oldest residential street in Philly.

Having said that, there are some downsides to both of these factors. While I appreciate a populace that's not afraid to speak (or yell) its mind, it could get wearying listening to profanity everywhere. I might be embarrassed when people came to visit. It might make me feel negative, which I don't like feeling. (Despite me having a generally pessimistic view on a lot of things in life, I always find myself pleasantly surprised when life exceeds my expectations. Genuine meanness and coarseness really wears me down, though.)

Also hurting Philly on the friendliness assessment is that I don't know anyone at all in the city. Now, two of my closest friends grew up in the outer suburbs, and still go back home fairly regularly, so I could see them sometimes. But that's different from having friends already living there to show me around and advise me on stuff. I would be able to get to DC on a very easy and short train ride, but getting to Cleveland to see my parents would almost certainly require a flight.

Philadelphia at night.

And while downtown Philly is pretty nice, it's surrounded by a giant ring of ugly. Now, maybe in the heyday of Philadelphia, the parts of the city that were just outside of downtown might have ranged from very glamorous to charming to at least acceptably attractive. Now, though, the whole inner ring around downtown needs a bath and a serious spring cleaning. Which is too bad, as living a mile or two from downtown might provide the kind of home I'd otherwise like. But not if I'm in the midst of a heap of garbage (or worse, just a plain old bad part of town). I've spent some time in a few suburbs of Philly. Enough to know there are plenty of nice and attractive, and in some cases, older and architecturally interesting suburban neighborhoods. But at this point in my life, those are too far away from where I'd probably want to be.

Is this the norm, or is it garbage day?  I do not know.

Geographically, Philly doesn't stand out to me as particularly interesting. Its main perk is that it is only 1.5 hours to the ocean (which isn't all that close). Otherwise, it's flat and has a river.

Things I think I'd like about Philly:

• Wide variety of dining options. I've eaten out a lot in Philly, and liked almost everything. Many places have free live entertainment (music). Many restaurants are BYOB, with no corking fees. That means I can bring my $10 bottle of wine instead of paying $25 for the same bottle! (I forget why this is, by the way. Something about liquor laws, I think.)
• I sense a genuineness about the people who live there. Not a lot of putting on airs. I wouldn't say I found the people “friendly” like they are in the midwest. But I also think people would be frank and open; not overly reserved or fake friendly. I think I would meet people fairly easily.
• It's one of the few cities in the U.S. with older architecture. As in, pre-Revolutionary War. As you know, I like old buildings and ruins and graveyards, and there just aren't that many in the U.S. I could see myself going for walks or jogs through the old neighborhoods, and possibly living there as well, finances permitting.

Philly's Vietnam War Memorial (I think).

Things I think I would not like about Philly:

• While parts of Philly look really nice and would probably make a good home, a huge swath of the city just looks like a big dump.
• The sports fans. They are notoriously obnoxious. :(
• I think I'd always wonder why I traded one big East Coast city (DC) for an even bigger East Coast city. Only, one where I didn't know anyone, would have a hard time finding a job in my field, might not value education as much, and might not have as much stuff to do. As I went through times in my life where I wasn't as happy about something (say, lack of a job, or being ill, or just being in the doldrums) I think I'd grow to dislike my surroundings and more, dislike myself for not trying something different. This isn't really meant to be a knock on Philly. More of some speculation that, for what I'm hoping to do with myself at this point in life, Philly probably isn't the best move for me.

  

  The Eastern State Penitentiary.  Real cool to visit; wouldn't want to feel like I'm living there.

Chicago Revisited

Chicago was not one of my “audition” cities because I'd been there several times before and I already knew I liked it. Looking back on my stop there last summer, maybe I could have learned more by visiting some new neighborhoods, but I figure I've seen more of Chicago over the years than I saw of most of my audition cities during my deliberate explorations.

I added Chicago to my list because it's always been my favorite city in the U.S. to visit. And it doesn't hurt that it's a place where I could continue working in the same field. I've always liked the midwestern feel to the people. They seem down to earth and friendly, and I don't get that sense of self-importance that I sometimes pick up in big cities. I have several friends in town, so I know I'd have an easy start to building my own social circle. And in my experience, strangers tend to chit chat with one another in Chicago, so I am not worried that I will have a hard time making friends on my own.

I met this furry friend on the campus of Northwestern's Law School.

In terms of how it looks, I've long considered Chicago to be the best-looking city in the U.S., at least in terms of its architecture and art. Other cities might have better natural beauty, but I've always tended to prefer man-made beauty to natural beauty, and architecture to other forms of visual arts. So I really like how Chicago looks. I've been warned by others that Chicago's downtown can be “dark” because all the tall building block out the sun. But by now, you all know how I feel about the sun, so that doesn't sound like a downside to me.

Cloudy & rainy can be just as cool as bright & sunny!

Chicago's terrain is not as varied as some places. Flying into the city, one can see that it is just flat as far as the eye can see. I very much like how it's on Lake Michigan, though. That adds some natural visual interest. And having grown up about ½ mile from Lake Erie, I've always liked having a big body of water nearby to physically orient myself to the world.

Navy Pier

Three things I think I'd like about Chicago:

• Being back in the Midwest. It's a slightly slower and more laid-back pace to life than on the east coast. People have more time for another, and don't take themselves so seriously. Yes, I'm generalizing, but in my experience, people in the Midwest trend towards these characteristics.
• Community theater. Chicago is big on community theater and other low-key entertainment options. I like going out for culture, but don't always like the cost involved. Once in a while I spring on something like a Broadway show or the ballet, but I know I'd go out more if I had many lower-cost and easily accessible entertainment options.
• I don't know how to phrase this as “something I'd like about Chicago” but it's always been my favorite place to visit in the U.S. I've been there maybe 10 times, a few for work, but most for fun. I like the different neighborhoods, the bars, the range of things to do. When I was overseas and I met foreigners who expressed an interest in visiting New York City, I always told them to visit Chicago instead. It's prettier, there is just as much to do, and the people are nicer. So maybe I can just say that I have a general enthusiasm for the place.

Cool architecture, probably by someone famous like so many buildings in Chicago.

Three things I think I'd dislike about Chicago:

• Winter!
• It's the third biggest metropolitan area in the country. It's taken me 90 minutes to travel from one suburb to another. There are people everywhere. Although I've discovered that in big cities, I could make a little bubble for myself in a neighborhood and live as if it's a mini-city. But as soon as I want to venture out of my bubble, it's gonna be a pain in the ass.
• I don't think it will be as cheap as my research and my friends tell me. I don't mean I'm expecting prices to be as low as Des Moines or Cleveland, but I suspect prices for things like rent and dinners out will be much closer to DC than to smaller cities. High prices make me unhappy, even if I have a correspondingly high income.

Los Angeles Revisted

Re-visited in my head, not in reality.

As noted in an earlier post, I had not expected to like LA, but I left it with a really good feeling. From the start of my trip, I'd wanted to add a city in California to audition, but I never actually settled on one. But having spent 4 days and nights in LA, I got a feel for the place and decided afterward to make it an audition city, although I did not explore it in the same way I explored other places.

The Chinese Theater.

I expected the people to be very snooty and plastic. And maybe there are people like that there, but most of the people I encountered were casually friendly and more down-to-earth. Two of my friends work in industries that bring them in constant contact with “the beautiful people” and they reported a mixed bag when it comes to this group: Some people are very nice and approachable, while others are used to throwing their money around and getting their way. But this isn't a group of people I expect to come in contact with much; I figure if I lived in LA, my group would be fellow professionals, maybe artists and white and pink collar workers. Plus whoever I got to know in my neighborhood, like shopkeepers, waitresses, bartenders, etc. In other words – normal people. In short, among the things that surprised me about LA was that I was not put off by the people as I expected to be.

I was also impressed by how much my friends seemed to know their neighbors. In DC, I lived in the same large apartment building for 10 years, and when I left it, I knew 3 (THREE!) people by name. When I lived in Raleigh, for example, I knew every other tenant in my 12-unit building by name, and everyone looked out for one another. So I'm on the lookout for a place where people know each others' names and look out for each other in the gentle way neighbors should. And from my limited experience there, LA seemed to be like that.

Speaking of friends, I have a handful of friends in LA. Let's say 5, and presumably I would make more friends through those friends. None of my family live there, though, and LA is very far away from them, so I'd have to plan visits to see my loved ones carefully. So, moving to LA wouldn't be the best choice in terms of maintaining most of the friendships I currently have.

Hey, there's one of my friends now!

Switching gears: I found LA to be quite beautiful. As much as I am annoyed by the sun, it sure felt nice being somewhere where the weather is always mild. Well, OK, it reached over 100 degrees one day in the middle of October, but generally, the weather is pretty constant and nice. But more than the weather, in the parts of LA I saw, people seem to take a lot of care of their homes and buildings. The architecture isn't the most stunning overall, but there is pleasing variety to the houses and apartment buildings. And things are landscaped well, kept up, and I didn't notice a lot of visual clutter. (Unlike, say, Charleston, West Virginia, which would be so pretty if they knocked down all the parking garages and billboards, and cleaned some of that junk up!) So I give LA high marks in beauty, both natural and man-made.

At The Getty.

Near the ocean.

Finally, you can't beat the variety of terrain. The city itself is flat, but it's right on the ocean in one direction and surrounded my mountains and valleys in other directions. There's a little something for every taste. Except, of course, that it is all city. There's no ability to drive, say, 30 minutes and be out in the middle of nowhere, because it's just too big.

Three things I think I'd like about LA:

• I will be warm. I don't like being cold, especially inside. While I like winter and the snow, if I am cold, I am unhappy. And sadly, being inside in winter doesn't guarantee I am warm, because that cold seeps in! And it is rarely cold in LA. (The unrelenting sun might start to bother me, though.)
• The housing selection looks like it would suit me really well. Lots of charming bungalow houses and garden-style apartments, all with lots of yard spaces and trees. And many neighborhoods are walkable. While I will probably need a car there, I don't think I'd need it for every trip, assuming I picked the right place to live. And in fact, at least one of my friends in LA does not even own a car!
• The wide variety of food to eat and things to do. LA seems to have every kind of cuisine and so many things to do.

Three things I think I'd dislike about LA:

• It is enormous. It took me about 80 minutes on a Saturday afternoon just to get out of the city. It is large in land area and population, and much of it is really crowded, especially the roads. While I expect there are a number of neighborhoods I could live and work in, and have the experience of living in a small city within a bigger metropolitan area, any time I wanted to venture out of that little bubble, it will be a hassle. Traffic, parking, waiting in lines, all of that.
• I fear – but do not know – that there is a lot superficiality and not a lot of depth. Do people read books, or just People Magazine? Do people keep fit (good) or do they obsess about their looks, spending hours each day in the gym and getting too much plastic surgery (bad)? Do people form intimate and lasting friendships, or is the friendliness mostly on the surface, like being polite to one another and knowing names, without knowing much else? I don't know if my fears are grounded in reality, but it's something I wonder.  (After writing this, but before posting it, one of my friends in LA offered the unsolicited comment that a lot of people there are "plastic" in both looks and personality.  So, it's not just me who suspects it's kind of shallow.)
• It's really far away from people I care about. That means every visit back east will take a lot of travel time and a lot of money. Spending, say, a weekend in Cleveland would be almost out of the question because it would be such a pain and expense to get there.